One of the most profound objectives of raising kids is to nurture them to be righteous children. To be righteous, in the larger sense of the word, signifies being morally upright, responsible, empathetic, and having a sense of justice. With that said, while universally valued, being righteous isn’t always black and white. It isn’t something that comes with a clear manual, and most certainly is a blend of art and science – a fusion of intuitive parenting combined with evidence-based strategies.

At Tots & Teddies, being righteous is a part of our 4R values that the school upholds and seeks to inculcate in our children. These include Resilient, Resourcefulness, Respect, and Righteousness.

Righteousness, to us, means they should always be ethical in any given situation and do the right thing, even if unpopular. To be righteous is to have integrity, be bold and honest, and not be afraid to speak out, despite the circumstances not being in their favour. Both parents and educators play a very important role in helping children develop into kind, caring, and responsible individuals, so here are several approaches you can take to raise righteous children.

Role Modelling

One of the key ways children learn is by observing what others say and do, especially that of their parents and teachers. As an adult, it is important to demonstrate righteous behaviours in front of the children, like honesty, empathy, and fairness. Psychological studies emphasise the power of observational learning, and children may imitate not just actions but also attitudes as well as moral dispositions. Thus, the home should be a safe teaching environment for parents to teach children the gratification of doing what is right.

Positive Reinforcement

Parents should always be reminded that reinforcing good behaviour is more effective than punishing bad behaviour when it comes to children. Acknowledge and reward acts of kindness and fairness, and point out wrongdoings, but don’t punish them as they will tend to feel bad about themselves. Studies have shown that rewarded behaviour is more likely to be repeated, so be sure to offer praise for the right actions. For instance, when your child shares a toy instead of snatching it away from a sibling, you can verbally praise the child by saying, “I like the way you shared your toy with your sister, that’s the right thing to do. Good job!”

Emotional Intelligence

Always encourage your children to recognise and express their emotions in a healthy way, and this in turn helps them to foster empathy and a stronger understanding of the feelings of others. After all, emotional intelligence is a key predictor of success in human relationships and personal wellbeing. This won’t just benefit them externally, but will very much impact how they treat and talk to themselves.

Open Communication

Whether in school or at home, children need to feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings. Thus, as parents, it is important to foster an openness with them, which welcomes moral reasoning and ethical thinking. Listen intently when the children speak. Parents can also spend time each day talking to their children about how they are feeling, and then validate these feelings. This can be done to help guide the child in developing strategies to manage their emotions effectively.

At Tots & Teddies, our teachers are similarly encouraged to have open conversations with children about being righteous, doing the right thing, and saying the right words not to hurt, but lift one another up.

Storytelling and Examples

Another easy way you can embolden your children to be righteous is to share stories that highlight moral dilemmas and righteous behaviours. You should also have room for discussion and allow your children to share their thoughts on the given situation. This is an age-old technique to instil moral values in children, and gradually, they will be able to pick up on and differentiate between acts that are righteous and those that are not.

Tots & Teddies

Tots & Teddies is a multi-award winning immersive-bilingual, full-day infant care and preschool centre located in Singapore’s Central Business District (CBD). We cater to discerning parents who want the best quality care for their infants from 2 months through to children under 7 years old.

Our learning environments are created carefully around your child so they feel safe, secure, fun and are able to respond freely. The environments help to spark curiosity and creativity in your child, invite exploration, manipulation, and a sense of discovery.

The classrooms have been designed to support your child’s character development through our thematic inquiry-based curriculum. Additionally, we feature a semi-open classroom concept where children from different age groups can socialise and learn from one another.

To ensure the holistic development of your child, bi-weekly trips to the Children’s Park at Gardens By The Bay are provided at no additional charge to parents. Alternatively, they also get to explore Art Playscape which is located at the National Gallery Singapore.

Parents play a critical role in their children’s lives so we partner closely with them to enhance the children’s learning. Daily updates are sent via our digital app, phone calls and email. We also invite parents to participate regularly in the children’s activities and hold half-yearly parents-teachers meetings as well as at our year-end open house.

Righteous Children are the Future

At Tots & Teddies, we believe that raising children to be righteous is both an art and a science. It requires conscious effort and that is why we provide a nurturing environment and empathetic teachers to inculcate good values and ethics in children. It can be challenging at times, but with close collaboration with the school, parents will see positive change in their children’s behaviour and attitude. It is also rewarding to know that your children are growing up on the right path into becoming decent human beings.

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